Delayed Ejaculation

There are three major male sexual dysfunctions: premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and a much less well-known problem called delayed ejaculation.

Delayed ejaculation is a difficulty that men have reaching the point of orgasm and ejaculation during sexual intercourse. It’s often said that men with delayed ejaculation also have difficulty reaching point of orgasm and ejaculation during masturbation, although in fairness, over the 12 years that I’ve been working with men with this problem, I’ve never met a man yet who failed to ejaculate during in masturbation, even if it took him a long time to get to that point.

No, this is really a dysfunction about sexual intercourse, and it’s a fascinating one, because few of us realize that men can have difficulty ejaculating during sexual relations.

Causes of delayed ejaculation

So why might a man have trouble ejaculating during intercourse, when it’s an evident fact that the majority of the male population have difficulty withholding their ejaculation!

The answer seems to be a combination of factors can be at work, one of which is penis sensitivity (click here) – or, more accurately, reduced penile sensitivity.

You see, for all the kinds of reasons, some young men learn to masturbate using a hard and fast technique which may involve thrusting against the mattress on the bed or using a hard and vice-like grip on the penis. It will not take much of this to produce a penis desensitized to normal levels of stimulation, so that for the rest of his life, unless he intervenes in some way to remedy the situation, the man can only reach orgasm and ejaculate by using a similar level of pressure on his penis.

As you may well imagine, sexual intercourse involving a vagina or even an anus does not produce the same level of intense stimulation as this sort of masturbation!

Hard and fast masturbation is dealt with by retraining the body to respond much less stimulation, of a softer kind. This can be done by asking the man to withhold from masturbation for a period of time, and then use a much softer stroke, together with orgasm triggers which can stimulate him further – that might be nipple or anal stimulation, for example.

However many men fail to complete this treatment because of the sex urge presents them with difficulty in restraining themselves from masturbating.

And yes, this can be challenging, but fortunately more men have delayed ejaculation which is rooted in some kind of interaction with their partner (or perhaps with women in general). This is easier to deal with. Most people assume that therapy of some kind or at least relationship counselling is necessary, but this is not true.

In fact, it’s probably sufficient for a couple to practice sensate focus, which is a way of building intimacy and arousal in a gradual way – this is almost a kind of “fake it till you make it” technique which allows a couple to re-establish intimacy, to work together towards establishing successful sex, and to do it without addressing underlying relationship problems.

orgasm triggers may include new and novel sexual positions

orgasm triggers may include new and novel sexual positions

It turns out that when you do this, many of those problems are alleviated because the orgasm which is shared during lovemaking actually brings men and women close together in an interesting dynamic: it seems as if orgasm itself, particularly sharing orgasm during intercourse, can alleviate psychological isolation, alleviate physical separation, and bring a couple close together emotionally, physically and indeed spiritually as well.

What this means is that delayed ejaculation can be treated in many different ways depending on the circumstances that arise in a couple.

One way to deal with this problem is to establish exactly what the right treatment method might be for you and your partner – and you can do that if you click here – the link will take you to a site I’ve written on delayed ejaculation, which lists many of the different treatment methods and why they work in certain cases.

What I know to be true from my work over many years is that you don’t have to put up with this difficulty: delayed ejaculation is a problem that can be solved.

Although it may be a perplexing and challenging problem for you at the moment, exploring it in an intelligent and informed way, with high motivation to ejaculate normally during sexual intercourse, can restore you to full sexual function in a comparatively short space of time: maybe two weeks, maybe two months.

I think the message is this: men and women don’t need to experience difficulties within relationships caused by sexual dysfunction.

Even the things which have traditionally been regarded as pernicious and systemic such as low sexual female desire (which is now medicalized as a dysfunction called hypoactive sexual desire disorder) can be solved.

Oddly enough, while we are on the subject of difficulty with orgasm, it turns out one remedy for hypoactive sexual desire disorder is to have more orgasms more frequently. In other words, a kind of “fake it till you make it” behavior works here – one which allows you to experience the objective you’re trying to achieve through sheer persistence and determination. And, once you’ve got to the point of successful orgasm, you can then more easily achieve orgasm again because of positive feedback: the motivation to increase your sexual stimulation and arousal by engaging in lovemaking with your partner actually comes from the reward of orgasm itself!

In searching for new and novel sources of sexual stimulation you can try all kinds of sex positions.

In searching for new and novel sources of sexual stimulation you can try all kinds of sex positions.

It’s an elegant and complete circle which should allow you to overcome many difficulties without the help of a professional sexual therapist, although there are plenty of resources available should you decide that’s what you need for advice on this subject.

Finally, I’d add a piece of advice:  experimenting with sexual positions can introduce novelty and excitement into your sex life – there’s no doubt that most people’s sex life becomes (to some degree at least) boring after a while.

You can keep sexual relationships fresh, exciting and enlivened, by experimenting with new sexual techniques and positions, including the coital alignment technique (about which you can read a lot more here); indeed this is essential if you wish to keep your relationship rewarding, exciting, fulfilling and satisfying in every way. And, as a man, if you want to share sexual pleasure with your woman in bed, why would you do anything else?

Use Your Innate Power To Stop Sexual Problems

You can overcome premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation more easily than you ever thought possible.

The power of your mind.

I’m often asked by men who are seeking solutions for their sexual problems as to how they might find a way to make love with more confidence — and indeed, more competently.

Traditionally, remedies for premature ejaculation have centered on either muscle control, uncomfortable and potentially disruptive (to the process of sex, that is, LOL) processes like the squeeze technique and the stop-start technique.

But in reality, premature ejaculation is always a mental problem — it’s not about oversensitivity of the penis, as some men like to think, nor is it about a high sex drive, as other men like to think — it is, in short, to repeat, a mental problem.

To be more specific, it’s a mental / emotional problem: which means in practice that men who come too quickly are (at least in one viewpoint) effectively trying to avoid a sexual situation by ending it through early ejaculation.

Generally when you dig down into the psyche of men who experience rapid ejaculation, you find that the main causes are anxiety about sex, shame about sex, or anger against women.

Now of course it’s entirely possible that the highly sexually active and aroused adolescent may ejaculate quickly simply because he hasn’t had much sexual experience, but let’s ignore cases like this!

This leaves us with an issue: which is that men seek to control premature ejaculation by finding physical solutions to what is in effect a mental or emotional problem.

It seems quite logical to expect that the best course of action for solving premature ejaculation problems might be to identify mental or emotional techniques which will overcome the mental or emotional blocks which are causing the problem in the first place.

have a happy woman by using the right techniques to end premature ejaculation

Make a woman happy by using the right techniques to end premature ejaculation!

In this context, it’s helpful to observe that men who use visualization techniques to rehearse their sexual lovemaking tend to find that their premature ejaculation is alleviated quite quickly.

It’s all a matter of freeing the subconscious, and making sure that it understands that sex is not a threat, but a delightful event, that is not to be hastened through, but lingered over for the pleasure of both partners.

This can be done quite simply, I believe, by giving men who suffer from this issue the opportunity to learn some visualization techniques to enable them to picture themselves making love competently and in a controlled fashion.

Oddly enough, websites on the law of attraction often speak about using sexual energy to create reality. I agree with that principle entirely, but I would take it a stage further: you can actually use manifestation techniques to control the expression of sexuality during intercourse.

While sexual energy, and indeed love energy itself, are two of the most powerful forces in the universe, it would be peculiar indeed if they were not to be harnessed for a great benefit in ways other than the chief pleasure of sex — orgasm.

One way which they can be harnessed effectively, to produce an improvement in sexual performance on sexual confidence, is to redirect the emotional and sexual energy of the subconscious mind and to whole body, WHICH DISPELS THE NEED TO EJACULATE QUICKLY, and can produce an energetic flow in a Tantric fashion between the partners.

Enjoy better sex with Tantric energy flow.

Enjoy better sex with Tantric energy flow.

Though these things may seem complex at first, it’s only a matter becoming familiar with them and using them to your own advantage — after all, the solution to your problems lies within your mind, just as the cause of those problems lies within your mind.

One wonders why so many men put up with problems like premature ejaculation when it seems very easy indeed to stop it happening with only a slight shift in thinking.

That shift takes one from traditional solutions like physical techniques and tricks to use during intercourse [whether that’s breathing patterns, muscle control, the stop – start technique, or whatever] towards new techniques such as mental imagery, cognitive behavioral therapy, and desensitization.

Of course it’s fair to say that there are many people — men especially, I think — who are reluctant to extend any effort to hold towards improving sexuality and sexual experience.

While this is unfortunate, it is, perhaps, the product of a in society which instant gratification is expected by everybody in every area of their existence.

In short, only those who are highly motivated to achieve a better sex life will try to do it using techniques of manifestation and the Law Of Attraction [which are in fact just mind control techniques which can be applied to any area of your life].

If you’re interested, follow the link above, and you will be taken to a website where you can find out all about the mental techniques which traditionally have been used to control the experience of the mind, direct its energy and particularly focus it on achieving a desirable outcome.

In closing let me just add that many women find premature ejaculation extremely distressing, but they don’t find it as distressing as their man’s failure to improve the situation by doing something about it.

For many women, a man’s failure to address premature ejaculation is tantamount to the expression of indifference to the welfare of the woman in the sexual relationship.

How Better To Enjoy Your Sex Life

EVERY SOCIETY HAS ITS TABOO, its restrictions on individual behavior which may or may not be justified by scientific analysis.

Many young couples come to marriage with a set of prejudices and a body of misinformation that add another obstacle to the smooth development of physical love. They do not know what they can expect of each other’s body, and may have crippling notions of “modesty.”

In the last century many women refused to be seen nude by their husbands, even during intercourse. Some people today place restrictions on themselves which others would consider just as unreasonable.

Side by side with notions of what is “modest” go opinions on what is “natural.” Many people think that there is only one “normal” or “natural” position for intercourse, the “man on top” sex position.

And if the physical structures of the partners’ bodies or their genitals place them at a disadvantage in this position and prevent the fullest pleasure in sex activity, they may never even find out that they could do much better in other sexual positions.

Another restrictive idea is that touching the genital parts is somehow indecent and akin to masturbation in its moral and physical harmful effects. Until physicians and other authorities on sex began to speak out for the truth, it was widely accepted that “self-abuse” or masturbation, the manipulation of the sexual parts to obtain sexual excitement and release, caused all kinds of problems…..

It is true that, because of the pressure of social disapproval, masturbation often causes anxiety and guilt feelings. But masturbation has no harmful physical effects like hurting the brain or even impairing sexual capacity.

Western religions agree that any and every type of foreplay or sexual position is permissible and acceptable, regardless of foreplay and position. Other peoples, in different parts of the globe and in different periods of history, have developed attitudes and sexual lore with which we are just beginning to catch up.

We find in the ancient holy books of the Hindus, the Kama Sutra and the Ananga-Ranga, in Japanese and Greek and Roman classical literature, serious descriptions of pre-coital and coital techniques which puritans would call improper but which are based on a very “natural” objective – full satisfaction in sexual activity as an important part of happiness in marriage.

It should be made clear at this point that sexual expertise and delight are not a guarantee of a happy marriage. Nor, on the other hand, is a marriage doomed to failure if sexual pleasure is absent.

In addition to sex, a complete marriage requires a sufficient income to buy food and keep the family together (inadequate income is the major cause of broken families, according to social workers’ data), as well as common interests resulting from similar backgrounds and ideals. Poverty will and lack of a common objective in life can raise sexual tensions which will destroy the most compatible sex life.

And it must be admitted that some couples have achieved a reasonable and affectionate life together with little sexual activity or none at all.

Overcoming Premature Ejaculation

A premature ending to lovemaking because of the man’s inability to control his arousal is devastating to a woman. No surprise that one of the most popular searches on the web is for tips to control male arousal!

A quick climax to physical intimacy can deprive the woman of the fulfillment which is her reward from loving her partner. She will perhaps feel that her partner either does not take her needs into account or that he is selfish. And a man who reaches climax with no control often feels like he is a failure in bed.

None of this is helpful for the relationship, especially if the matter is not honestly discussed. However, the fear and shame associated with sexual problems is massively stressful, and the two partners often carry on with this important dysfunction continuing to erode trust and respect. If you recognize this, you may ask, what can you change? The good thing is – you can indeed change things!

First of all, you must speak about it openly: this means you tell your partner what you are feeling. Unfortunately, the fact is our research shows as few as ten percent of couples talk to each other about intimate problems. So, to help you discuss your thoughts, feelings and emotions around sex, we have some tips to help you:

1) Reveal your emotions – don’t use the tactic of avoiding responsibility by blaming your spouse. Having the ability to listen without judging means you’ll experience much less resistance – and your partner is probably going to be very much more willing and able to listen to what you want to say without judging you.

2) Don’t project your feelings – having the courage to accept that you are in this together is essential to eliminating mutual distrust. Only when you are able to accept that your lover’s actions and feelings are an honest reaction to the issues you face, and that they are entitled to think, feel and act as they do, will you begin to respect each other as you really are.

3) Don’t wallow in self-criticism. Doing something is more constructive. This may require getting the support of a therapist. Or it may mean something as simple as booking a time slot every day to speak to your partner about your worries.

4) If you have trouble opening up about difficulties with your love life consider the things you want to “bring to the table” beforehand. Preparing like this is essential in achieving the respect of your partner. It’s also helpful to know your limits in any talk about sex. That way you are be much more likely to avoid concessions you regret.

5) Be clear about why you are raising the issue. It’s often challenging to have full awareness of what’s behind our emotions, and it’s likely you might only fully realize the real issue as you talk about the issue. And, if you are clear what you would like to change, you are more likely to get it. The more genuinely you show yourself, the more honestly you talk about what’s going on for you, the closer you will feel as a couple.

Secondly, work as a couple on a proven self-help solution for treating male sexual problems. There are several to choose from on the web and a quick search will be enough to find one that is right for you and your partner. Here is the one I recommend. The essential characteristics you should to seek out are: honest references, a money-back guarantee, and a qualified author.

I have shown in more than ten years’ work men with sexual problems that self-help programs work just as well as face to face therapy for most men, if they are strongly ready to up their sexual game.

You can end premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a sexual disorder as a result of which a man reaches orgasm during sexual intercourse too quickly – before either he or his partner desire him to. Premature ejaculation is often known as quick climax and is often shortened to PE.

Video – premature ejaculation control

Sex experts Dr Masters & Virginia Johnston suggested early ejaculation was a male sexual problem in which a man ejaculates before his wife in approximately 48 percent of their sexual lovemaking. Today the general definition of premature ejaculation is if the male orgasms inside of two minutes after the moment of intromission. The sad fact is that research from Alfred Kinsey and his co-workers way back in the mid part of the last century proved that three quarters of males climax within 2 minutes after entering the vagina in more than 50% of all sexual intercourse.

Quick climax tends to be split into two or more conditions. Many experts identify primary premature ejaculation, which occurs as soon as a male first has intercourse, and secondary premature ejaculation, beginning rather later in the man’s life. See more by clicking here. Quick climax can be further divided into “universal PE”, implying a fast orgasm with all sexual partners, each time a man has sexual intercourse, and situational PE – which happens only when a man is with certain sexual partners. A huge number of young men at the start of their sex lives will probably come much too soon. And, as we know, all men without any other sexual dysfunction ejaculate too rapidly occasionally in their lives -for example, when having illicit sex.

Because there is considerable variability in how long sex lasts before men reach climax, and because the feelings and rewards all couples actually seek from sex are so personal, it’s unreasonable to try and establish the degree of rapid ejaculation in the whole population. Estimates vary from an unlikely low of 5% up to as much as 83%. Unsurprisingly therapists have begun to form a behavioral definition of quick ejaculation.

Present data suggests an average ejaculatory latency (i.e. the time between penetration and ejaculation) of approximately 6.5 minutes among 18-30 year old human males.

When rapid ejaculation is characterized with reference to an intravaginal ejaculatory latency time percentile below 2.5, we find that the expression “rapid ejaculation” could indeed be applied to an orgasm which occurs within two minutes of the beginning of coitus. Nonetheless, it’s possible, if not probable, for men and their partners who have extremely low staying power to be at ease about their lovemaking ability and to even be unaware of their inadequate ejaculatory control.

Similarly males with more developed ability to sustain intercourse can sometimes consider themselves as fast comers, enduring inconvenient PE and wishing to know how to last longer in bed even when this is merely an individual point of view.

The physical system of orgasm and ejaculation needs two unrelated triggers: emission and expulsion. Emission is the trigger for the release of semen. It involves the muscular movement of seminal fluid out of the ampullary vas deferens and vesicles of the reproductory tract. It is associated with the exciting feeling which precedes ejaculation.

The prostate also releases supportive fluids for sperm into the rear part of the urinary tract. Expulsion is the second phase of release. It entails sealing of the bladder neck, after which come the regular contractions of the perineal muscles and rhythmic relaxation and contraction of the external urethral openings.

It is widely held that the neurotransmitter serotonin plays a central role in regulating ejaculation and orgasm. A number of studies on rats have demonstrated its inhibiting effect on the function of ejaculation. Therefore, it’s acknowledged that lower than normal amounts of serotonin within the synaptic cleft in specific parts of the brain may cause PE.

This idea is further given credence by the proven effectiveness of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) (which improve serotonin concentrations within the synapse), in slowing premature ejaculation. Motor neurons of the sympathetic nervous system manage the emission phase of the ejaculation reflex, while the second phase is under the control of autonomic motor neurons. These motor neurons are positioned in the lumbosacral spinal cord and work together in a highly co-ordinated manner when sensory input reaches the reflex ejaculation threshold.

A number of areas in the brain structure, especially the nucleus paragigantocellularis, have been definitely shown to be related to a degree of voluntary ejaculation control. Researchers have always believed there to be some kind of genetic link in certain forms of premature ejaculation. As evidence of this: In a single study, 91 percent of sexually experienced men with life-long PE had a close relation with global PE.

Different workers have noted that men who have premature ejaculation show a quicker nervous system reaction in the pelvic musculature. Simple exercises can significantly improve ejaculatory control for men who have no control in coitus.

Many therapists feel premature ejaculation is caused by emotional factors such as lack of confidence and so on. Sometimes such men could be helped by taking anti-anxiety medicine such as or SSRIs in the family of paroxetine.

These drugs may decrease the speed of ejaculation. Another approach: to use anesthetic creams on the penis. However, these creams might also deaden pleasurable pleasure in the man’s partner and aren’t recommended.

Premature ejaculation must be treated before any associated ED. To identify effective treatment for PE a prognosis ought to be defined using the man’s complete sexual profile, looking for indications of change in IELT, and proof of poor ejaculation control, sexual issues in the man and his partner and misery in either the man or his lover.

Rapid ejaculation and ED are seen together in nearly half of men suffering from PE. When determining the most suitable treatment, it is vital for the physician to distinguish between PE as “a psychological complaint” and PE as a so-called “syndrome”.

This male dysfunction can be classified into generalized and situational. Not too long ago, a different new classification was suggested primarily based on controlled scientific stopwatch studies. different syndromes were proposed: natural variable PE and premature-like ejaculatory dysfunction.

Just PE which has existed for years with ejaculation latency time of < 1 to 1.5 minutes ought to be regarded as a probable candidate for medication as the first strategy, along with sex therapy. Other categories of PE ought to be helped by reassurance. Rapid orgasm is a usual variation of human sexuality.

Dapoxetine is a brief-acting selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor developed for therapy of premature ejaculation. Dapoxetine is the only drug with any authorization for such usage. At the moment, it is authorized in a number of European nations, such as Sweden.

Dapoxetine is said to significantly improve many elements of PE and typically is safe for most men. Before the development of Dapoxetine, Anafranil was sometimes prescribed to address PE. Other medications tried include: Tramadol, which is an FDA authorized oral analgesic for mild pain. It is much like an opioid, is an agonist at the mu receptor, but also is much like an anti-depressant in that it will increase levels of norepinephrine and serotonin.

Tramadol also has few unwanted side effects, is safe, and will increase the IELT up to 20 times better than ninety % of men. Anesthetic lotions incorporating Lidocaine may be smoothed onto the head of the penis and might delay orgasm. Such lotions are utilized “as needed” schedule and have many fewer systemic adverse effects. Nevertheless, use of these creams may lead to insensitivity in the penis, and lessened sensation for the man’s lover because of cross-contamination.

Ways To Enjoy Sex More

Considering the number of men who suffer from premature ejaculation, it’s rather surprising that there are not more effective cures available on the Internet.

The reason for this is probably that any successful cure for premature ejaculation requires considerable dedication and effort on the part of the man. Faced with temptation of enjoying lovemaking, thrusting fast and reaching orgasm, most men will succumb to the temptation to simply ejaculate as quickly as possible, with little regard for their partner’s pleasure, and indeed, their own long-term satisfaction.

Now clearly, if you are a man who is letting his partner down during sex, you need to either control your ejaculation (check this out) or find a better way to satisfy her by bringing her to orgasm – click here for information on that!

 

It is all about sex, man!

For the simple truth is that this type of behaviour during sexual activity severely deprives a man of the pleasure that he might experience if he allowed his arousal to increase further for longer, by engaging in ejaculation control techniques that stopped him reaching the point of no return — otherwise known as the point of ejaculatory inevitability — too soon.

If you’re a man with premature ejaculation reading this, you might be wondering what exactly “too soon” actually means. Well, the simple answer to that is that “too soon” is an ejaculation which occurs before your partner has either emotionally or physically achieved the pleasure and satisfaction that she needs from sex.

This does not necessarily mean that a woman can reach orgasm through sexual intercourse, because this is often not the case. Indeed, research has shown that the majority of women are unable to reach orgasm through vaginal thrusting alone, but this does not alter the fact that many of them require a prolonged period of stimulation in this way for emotional satisfaction and fulfilment during intercourse.

Needless to say, those women who can reach orgasm through vaginal stimulation are even less pleased when their partner ejaculates too soon, since it deprives them of the pleasure of reaching a vaginal or G spot orgasm, which by all accounts is much more profound and fulfilling than a clitoral orgasm.

Now whether or not this bothers you as a man depends on many different factors, including whether or not you are sufficiently concerned about your partner’s sexual pleasure and fulfilment to engage in a process of ejaculation control exercises. My experience has shown me that many men who have a rapid ejaculation tend to excuse themselves on the grounds that it is a biological condition that can’t be helped.

I’ve heard men refer to such issues as levels of serotonin in the brain, unusually fast ejaculatory reflexes, and oversensitivity of the penis. Research has demonstrated that there is absolutely no truth in the idea that changes in levels of serotonin are caused by, or a cause of, premature ejaculation.

It’s all too easy to take an anecdotal account and extrapolate it to a whole theory of how an organic condition such as premature ejaculation develops. This has not been helped by the fact that delayed ejaculation has also been linked to variations in serotonin levels. Read more about effective delayed ejaculation treatment here 

here. What has happened in this case appears to be that the observation that those men who have been given SSRI antidepressants like fluoxetine, paroxetine or Dapoxetine, and who then show a delay in the ejaculatory reflex, has led to a body of opinion forming which holds that it is excessive serotonin in the brain that is responsible for rapid ejaculation.

The truth is that this is in no way a correlation, and indeed is probably not even an association. It’s impossible to experiment with men to determine whether or not those who do ejaculate quickly have higher or lower levels of serotonin in the brain, but even if this were possible it would not demonstrate that was a causal link.

For example, high levels of serotonin may be due to an emotional state of high arousal which has nothing to do with premature ejaculation. It could well be that a man who is oversensitive and to emotional and psychoneural stimulation in general is a highly aroused individual who tends to ejaculate quickly simply because that is his nature. Of course, varying your sex techniques and positions can help to control or speed up ejaculation.

Coital alignment technique

 

Benefits of masturbation

 

Excellent Skills To Control Premature Ejaculation

To develop greater staying power, you must get conscious control of quick orgasm during sexual intercourse. This sexual problem is clearly the most common let-down for women during sex. It can sometimes even precipitate the termination of sexual relationships. Happily, quick orgasm can be simply treated provided the man and the woman are able to work on a self help treatment together.

So what is PE, exactly? Men don’t need to know the material causes of this annoying sexual problem prior to overcoming it. However, for information, the general reason is anxiety about performance. Society promote a great deal of unrealistic pressures on all of us around sexual behavior that will never represent the reality of men and women’s behavior in bed for the average Joe and Joan. However, many couples expect that they need to achieve the nonsensical standards of sexual behavior put forward in magazines.

It’s astounding to discover that as far back as the 50s when Kinsey and associates did his pioneering studies into our sexual behavior he revealed that three fourths of adult males achieved orgasm and ejaculated well within the first four minutes of sexual intercourse. As it happens little of note has changed since this research. A University research project showed that as recently as 2002 80% of men come within 5 minutes of love-making commencing. That can never fulfill women who want longer connection in bed. After ejaculating, usually the man will lose his erection and so lovemaking often finishes, albeit momentarily. The point is, his partner cannot be sexually fulfilled and emotionally satisfied: she has not achieved orgasmic release.

A number of tricks have been developed to increase male staying power and overcome rapid ejaculation easily. The tips addressed in this piece are pubococcygeus muscle control, breathing techniques, the stop-start method of lovemaking, and anesthetic lotions for numbing the penis.

The muscle control method is all about purposeful control of ejaculation and orgasm by means of conscious use of the PC muscle. This technique requires you to be familiar with your PC muscle. It is positioned between the tailbone and along the perineum. You can usually identify the pubococcygeus muscle by stopping your flow of urine. The muscle you use to cease urine flow is the muscle in question. Next you can strengthen it by frequently squeezing it. Forty squeezes four times a day should be adequate to massively improve the muscle. After this, you should be able to slow down your ejaculation. When you feel an urge to climax at any time during sexual intercourse then you should quickly squeeze the muscle for as long as it takes until your sexual arousal decreases. You can then go on enjoying sex and do this again as often as you need to. It’s a simple trick for lasting longer.

Using your breath to stop premature orgasm is best explained in this way: if sexual arousal starts to increase a man breathes a lot more quickly. The alteration in respiration rate usually produces muscular tension and this activates his point of no return. Breathing technique is a way of slowing the process down. How it works: while enjoying sex, breath regularly but slowly in order to eliminate any bodily tension that you may experience. Many pieces of research have clearly proved that may men are unable to stop their climax because of anxiety and tension. Reducing these sensations will therefore greatly increase the period of sexual intercourse prior to male orgasm.

Masters and Johnson’s stop-start technique starts with self-stimulation to the edge of ejaculation, where you cease sexual stimulation. When the feelings of incipient climax have dissipated, you may recommence self-stimulation once more. Stop once more when you believe you are reaching orgasm. This technique of stopping and then recommencing is done often until you have perfect control. The technique should then be repeated in sex – with some persistence you will soon have perfect control of premature ejaculation.

You may prefer to try anesthetic condoms. The theory is that when you diminish the bodily sensations while having sexual intercourse you will last longer in contrast to your stamina without the anesthetic. Do investigate these devices to male endurance and they probably aid you. But do know that some irritating side-effects may appear. Among them are irritation of the skin, lack of feeling, complete loss of erection and anorgasmia.

With little effort you will be able to overcome early ejaculation during sexual intercourse using practical tips and techniques which you can get by looking here.

Controlling Premature Ejaculation

Reliable Tips For Stopping Premature Orgasm And Lasting A Lot Longer In Bed
by Dave Cooper

Quick ejaculation can be a dysfunction that does not just diminish two people’s physical pleasure: it often also massively reduces the sexual partners’ mutual sense of attractiveness.

So it’s a shame there are most certainly countless male partners who are unable to prolong sex for more than four minutes; research reveals that the mean extent of sexual intercourse is more or less 120 seconds. Going on for eight minutes is exceptionally unusual.

So, to avoid becoming disheartened, while crossing your fingers that you’re not so bad in bed, and that your bed-mate won’t lie about her sexual satisfaction, you may want to learn sexual self-control by using the successful tricks summarized here.

The following are some of the best treatments for quick ejaculation designed to let you exceed half an hour of very satisfying sexual pleasure with your partner.

Making Use Of The Penile Squeeze Technique.

The modified penile squeeze method will work well, but the man needs to honestly express when he is on the edge of the the moment of ejaculation.

And then, he must grip the hard penis with reasonable force. There are actually two different methods. The most common version involves squeezing around the rim of the head of the penis at the end of the stem of the erect organ. The alternative technique is to grip the penis at the bottom of the shaft. Clear application of pressure for about ten seconds will lessen the imminent sense of having to move into climax.

These techniques will simply and easily reduce both erection hardness and sexual arousal, at which point lovemaking moves on until the man is getting near his point of ejaculatory inevitability again. The squeeze is used as often as needed, providing the man with a delay preceding ejaculation.

A man and woman could try both ways of squeezing and figure out which choice fits the bill and makes him feel most confident.

Explore The Stop-Start Technique.

The stop start approach requires withdrawing the erect penis from the woman and then pausing during the rhythm of sex for a limited time. Often the man’s arousal decreases. After which, sex resumes. Usually, in the intermission, lovers engage in other kinds of sexual fun; such as giving each other oral pleasure in order that the woman’s sexual desire doesn’t dissipate.

They will resume sexual intercourse once the male gets command of his urge to ejaculate once again. This process seems to work best when practiced once a week or so – so control of ejaculation is reinforced. This grants the the man’s lover relatively more sexual pleasure to approach her own orgasm.

Clearly, the woman also stands a significantly better chance of reaching her own sexual peak and also enjoying simultaneous orgasm. Whatever the outcome, greater ejaculation control during sex produces better sexual intercourse.

Breathing Tips To Prevent Spontaneous Ejaculation.

Adapting your rate of respiration may assist in preventing early ejaculation. Men with rapid ejaculation can reduce sexual excitement during lovemaking by respiring with more conscious control. A huge number of men suffer super-fast climaxes as a result of excessive anxiety.

Simple strategies including breathing more slowly and deeply and taking sex slowly help one to stay sexually less aroused and this impedes the speed at which you reach orgasm. Even better, this trick redirects your thoughts away from the prospect of the embarrassment of premature ejaculation.

Adopting more than one of these sexual tactics is a successful strategy for controlling sexual anxiety and growing into a amazing lover. Surprisingly, this respiration control appears to be one strategy that is available to you to use without your sex partner knowing what you’re doing.

Breath techniques go with techniques for staying relaxed. The pubococcygeus muscles take a critical function in slowing down male climax. These muscles tighten to enable the ejaculation of sperm from the penis. Certain muscular relaxation exercises can help give a man much greater timing of his ejaculation.

For example, one system means contracting and totally relaxing the ejaculatory muscle in sessions of thirty cycles while doing your daily routine. You can find how to do this as you pause your urine flow. Restraining and counting to five before relaxing – and doing so over and over – strengthens the PC muscle. More than a 100 exercises each day is indicated to build the muscle to the stage required for total ejaculation control.

Make Sex Better By Controlling Premature Ejaculation

Human physiology researchers have recently hypothesized that it would be advantageous to enhance the accepted definition of premature ejaculation into 3 categories. An enhanced definition like that would make it easy to differentiate inborn premature ejaculation from perception-based premature ejaculation.

Based on numerous research, it appears that lifelong premature ejaculation refers to a condition that has been present since a man’s initial copulation with a partner. Conversely, perception-based premature ejaculation is a term that refers to premature ejaculation that has an onset years after that initial sexual act.

Interestingly, scientists have also learned about a third premature ejaculation classification that they refer to as “premature-like ejaculatory dysfunction”. This refers to the experience of a large number of men, who sometimes ejaculate very early during sexual intercourse, but who most of the time find it possible to control their climax with a reasonable level of success.

Accurately identifying these different types of premature ejaculation serves to separate men who actually have a valid sexual dysfunction from those men who really have healthy sexual function, but mistakenly perceive that their control during sex is unsatisfactorily embarassing.

One of the reasons that this new classification regime has been proposed is ostensibly the remarkable opinion that the incidence of actual dysfunctional premature ejaculation compared to premature-like ejaculatory dysfunction, which as we explained above is nothing more than a man’s erroneous perception that he is inadequate sexually, is just around 2 percent in the wider male population. Such low number seems highly unlikely.

Speaking as a counselor and therapist who has worked extensively in the areas of relationships and sexuality, I’m thoroughly convinced that premature ejaculation is a very real disorder that affects at the very least, half of the male population.

Inevitably, a basic need when you postulate that PE affects half the population and then alleviating the problem decisively, is that of identifying an adequate conventional definition. Writers will always insist on stringent standards to illustrate a physiological or medical condition.

Unfortunately, in categorizing premature ejaculation, narrow and accurate criteria are almost impossible to come by. What, for example, would constitute an acceptable length of intercourse? Each sexually involved couple have a distinctive conception of pleasurable sex.

To say that an arbitrary time limit of, for example, three minutes or any number below that before the man reaches climax would illustrate a case of premature ejaculation would appear baseless if the couple in question are quite happy with that part of their sexual relationship.

That is unquestionably why definitions have been formulated in the past with a reference to noticeable personal displeasure or to occurrences of relationship disharmony due to the male’s inability to persist longer during intercourse. Nevertheless, such attempts at definition are also unsustainable.

Many facets of the relationship may be very unsatisfactory, and sexual compatibility between the man and the female partner might as well be the crux of this dissatisfaction.

In relation to this, it’s perfectly clear that for couples where lengthy foreplay results in female orgasm before actual penetration, the effect of premature ejaculation and the dissatisfaction that it causes, is logically much more manageable than it is for a sexual partners who eschew foreplay and start coitus much earlier.

How then are we to realistically approach this problem from a reasonably scientific viewpoint and treat it effectively? How can a professional intelligently discriminate between a person who perceives his sexual prowess to be inadequate when, in fact, by reasonable standards it is actually average, and one who genuinely is unable to withhold his ejaculation and requires remedial therapy?

First and foremost, the remedy probably revolves around a studious discrimination and examination of the characteristics of the disorder. Dissatisfaction alone is not a failsafe sign of the need for treatment. However, if the couple are extremely unhappy with the male partner’s sexual inadequacy, it may be helpful to put forward some generally useful set of pointers or manual about sexual techniques, male and female bedroom mindsets or fantasies, and heightened foreplay methods that can help a woman to achieve convulsive climax.
Human physiology researchers have recently hypothesized that it would be beneficial to refine and improve the definition of premature ejaculation into 3 distinct types. Such a distinction could be crucial to differentiate physiological-based premature ejaculation from perception-based premature ejaculation.

As it appears, physiological-based premature ejaculation refers to a condition that has been present since a man’s first sexual encounter. Acquired premature ejaculation is an expression that scientists employ to distinguish premature ejaculation that only appeared later in life.

There is also a third classification, which has been referred to as “premature-like ejaculatory dysfunction”. The term applies to the experience of a large number of individuals, who occasionally climax very early during coitus, but who normally find it possible to control their climax in the majority of their sexual encounters.

The general objective in categorizing premature ejaculation in this fashion is to pinpoint men who actually have an identifiable sexual dysfunction from those men who really have healthy sexual function, but mistakenly perceive that their performance during sex is inadequate.

One of the main factors why this new classification regime has been proposed is ostensibly the radical opinion that the incidence of actual dysfunctional premature ejaculation compared to premature-like ejaculatory dysfunction, which is centered in the man’s erroneous understanding that he is not good sexually, is only approximately 2% in the wider male population. Such low estimate obviously needs to be revisited.

My clinical interaction over several years with men as therapist and counselor in the areas of relationships and sexuality has conclusively demonstrated to me that premature ejaculation is a very real condition that affects at the very least, fifty percent of the male population.

Of course, a basic requirement when you theorize that PE affects fifty percent of the entire male population and then dealing with the problem successfully, is that of identifying an adequate working definition. Writers justifiably refer to the need for stringent standards to identify a psychological or medical condition.

In the case of premature ejaculation, such one-size-fits-all criteria are difficult to come by. What, for for instance, can be construed as a standard duration of intercourse? Every couple who are sexually active have a different conception of sexual intercourse.

Designating some random duration of, for instance, three minutes or less before the male reaches climax would illustrate a case of premature ejaculation would appear meaningless if the couple in question are satisfied with that aspect of their sexual relationship.

That is unquestionably why scenarios have previously been formed with a reference to noticeable personal displeasure or to instances of relationship disharmony attributed to the male partner’s inability to last longer during intercourse. However, such attempts at definition are also hopelessly skewed.

Many aspects of the relationship may be in upheaval, and sexual interaction between the male and his female partner might as well be the focus of this dissatisfaction.

Furthermore, it’s perfectly obvious that for couples who engage in long foreplay resulting to female orgasm before intercourse commences, the impact of rapid ejaculation and the dissatisfaction that it sometimes engenders, is logically much more manageable than it is for a couple who omit foreplay and start intercourse much earlier.

How then do we proceed to realistically approach this condition from a reasonably scientific point of view and treat it effectively? How can a sex therapy professional intelligently differentiate between someone who believes his sexual prowess to be inferior when by objective measurement it is really normal, and a man who physiologically cannot control his ejaculation and needs medical professional intervention?

In my opinion, the remedy definitely lies in studious identification and examination of the symptoms. Sexual tension alone is not a failsafe indicator of the need for treatment. However, if the couple are very dissatisfied with the male partner’s sexual inadequacy, it may be helpful to suggest some kind of information or instruction about erotic techniques, male and female sexual psychology, and effective foreplay methods that can help the female partner to achieve climax.